Jess’s story*

I am a 21 year old student from Ireland. Unfortunately, I’ve recently found out I am pregnant and have to travel to the UK to receive a surgical abortion. I am devastated by this whole situation however, I need to do what’s right as I am still a college student, with a part-time job, living at home and not in a very stable relationship. I have been to the family planning clinic, where I spoke to a counsellor to discuss my options. Who also advised to contact you given my financial situation. I am planning to get an abortion within the next week. As I am not planning to tell anyone about this and do this on my own, I am under huge financial pressure with no financial support from anyone else. I am planning to seek out a loan for this abortion as I only have a part time job, however I am not guaranteed to secure one due to how little I earn.

I would be so grateful if you could consider any financial support with funding this abortion due to having to travel from where I live to Dublin, getting a flight from Dublin to the clinic and also receiving this abortion. The fees involved are huge and I am under huge stress at the moment thinking about how I am going to financially be able to do this. I read up on your organisation and am so grateful for the support you offer to other people in similar situations. It isn’t easy and your organisation looks like a huge helping hand on an extremely difficult path.

ASN was able to support Jess with much-needed funding – £300 towards the cost of her termination

Lavinia’s story*

I live in Ireland am a 41 year old mother of 5 and currently 4 weeks pregnant I would like to travel asap for an abortion. I can afford my flight I don’t need accommodation but would be greatful for financial help towards a consultation and treatment am in a very difficult situation and using my brother’s email address in confidence i hope and pray that I get a response and thank you all in advance… I hope you can consider my application as am really worried and embarrassed that I fined myself in this situation … I really appreciate your help at this difficult time and am greatful for the financial help also,I will have my consultation with the nurse tomorrow morning and I will get in touch again with you next week before I travel just see if everything is ok…”

ASN provided over £200 of support towards Lavinia’s abortion

 

Frankie’s story*

I was unaware of this organisation I already have my flights and appointments booked I am going this Friday my partner is on an average wage and with 3 kids a house and cars to pay for honestly some help would of been great. We live week to week and are currently trying to cover some debt as it is. it’s very stressful knowing that all we can do this week is use all his wages to cover the cost of the treatment. Most of last week’s was used for the flights. We both have no idea where the food on the table will come from next week. I’m aware I’m probably to late in writing to you guys. What an amazing help you must be to other women in my situation. To have to leave your home country and do that much travelling in one day is going to be very tough.”

We agreed with Frankie that she would bring €60 to her appointment and we would pay the rest, at her appointment the next day. She cried with relief and said: “Sorry I’m just so overwhelmed, I thought it was too late to ask, I really didn’t expect you to give me any money, thank you so much, thank you so much.

 

Alicia’s story*

I can’t talk on the phone, have to email. I’ve got myself into a terrible situation, I am so lost upset angry and confused. I got an abortion with help from you guys, December last year, only 9 months ago. I got an abortion because I wasn’t with the man, wasn’t financially stable, I’m on lone parent with a two year old and I struggle. My life was finally coming together after the abortion and I was getting to a good place with me and my child. I forgave myself for what I did and took precautions so it wouldn’t happen again, I have been on the contraceptive injection since and have always been on the ball with it, every three months. Last month I found out I was pregnant, I was so angry because I was on protection I thought was fool proof. When my doctor told me I broke down and convinced myself I’d be able to do this, have the baby. A month on and I just know I can’t, it’s killing me the thought of bringing another child into my life and I am so frustrated that I took precautions to prevent this. I’m 8 weeks pregnant, I know this because there was only one opportunity for conception to occur, it was my first time having sex since. I don’t know how to go about this again I am terrified , it’s a horrible procedure to do. Last time I had medical abortion and I found the experience horrific, painful and lonely. I want a surgical this time because I can’t face the idea of a medical again and I can’t spare the time away from my child or the expense of staying away. I need to go there and back in a day 🙁 please tell me what to do next” We responded to the client with suggestions of where she could book her appointment and asking when we could speak to her, as we have to speak on the phone if a client requires funding. “Thanks for getting back to me so soon, I really appreciate that. I can talk with you tomorrow night on the phone but not at the moment as I have family staying and can’t risk them hearing this conversation, they are leaving tomorrow. I have no one to talk to or support me this time and my family would go mad if they found out again and I’m so ashamed to talk to anyone I know. I will look at flights tonight, I want to go asap ,next week if even possible I hope the clinic would be able to see me :/

We suggested Alicia speak to the IFPA, she booked her own appointment and flights and then we were able to provide her with a grant of £152 towards the costs of her termination.

Crystal’s story*

I recently found out I’m pregnant and I am looking to get an abortion as I am only 18 years old and am in no position to have a child. I am 5-6 weeks pregnant. I am not in full time work as I just finished my Leaving Certificate. I’ve had an incredibly hard time coming to terms with this and have been speaking with a counsellor at Well Woman in Ireland. I have came the conclusion of getting an abortion as I’ve had a very critical year in regards to my mental health and I feel as though I would struggle immensely if I were to go through with this pregnancy as I am already on thin ice. Me and my boyfriend have decided this is the best option for me and would love if you could help support us to get to England as soon as possible.

We spoke to this client, who didn’t have a passport (and so needed to fly with Aer Lingus). Her parents knew about the pregnancy but were not supportive of her abortion, and so wouldn’t lend her any money. The client and her boyfriend booked flights and gathered together what they could and we gave a grant of £100 towards her procedure.

Carla’s story*

First off I would like to say thank you for calling me back yesterday. You put my mind at ease.

This client was recently diagnosed bipolar and already had two children. Her doctor and mental health nurse knew she was pregnant, and agreed with her that another pregnancy and child would not be good for her mental health, or the health of her children. She needed a £98 grant from ASN and said:

Thank you so much, you’ve been so helpful, I didn’t even know such a thing existed.

*all names are pseudonyms to protect the identities of our clients